Move on din pag may time

            “Hugot. Hugot everwhere. Walang forever. Seenzone. Friendzone. Kung ano pa dyan zone.”

            Ito ang mga pinaka-pamilyar na linya ng mga kabataan natin ngayon. Obviously, ang mga linyang 'to ay parating sinasabi ng mga taong minsang pinaasa, sinaktan at iniwan. Linya ito ng mga taong may tinatagong sakit at kapaitan sa malalalim na bahagi ng kanilang puso.

            In short, these people find it difficult na maka move-on.

            Move-on. This is one thing na madaling sabihin pero napakahirap gawin. I know many of you can relate. Moving on basically means leaving something behind and embracing what lies ahead, but more on that later. We cannot deny na mahirap mag move-on. Move on- we keep on saying that as advices to our peers, and to our bestest of the best friends, but we never really do that (they don't as well).

            Basically, may mga rason kung bakit nahihirapan tayo mag move-on sa mga bagay-bagay:

1)     Overly attached sa past. There are some things na sanay na sanay tayong gawin, na kapag nawala ang mga bagay na ito, we feel that may kulang na bahagi ng buhay natin. When we begin to do things and like what we do, we gradually develop a “comfort zone.” Para sa iba diyan, leaving our “comfort zones” is, obviously, uncomfortable, and sometimes, unnecessary. For example, a couple who has shared years of memories, tears and laughters but has broken up will find it really hard to “un-love” or “un-attach” each other. Time to time, their hearts will long for that “comfort zone” feeling. It's like grounded ka sa bagay o tao na 'yan, just like a narra tree with its roots embedded deeply in the soil. Kahit anong sigaw mo pa diyan, kahit anong tulak, gagalaw ba yan? Sabi pa nga ni Kitchie Nadal sa kanyang kanta, why am I the only one standing stranded on the same ground?”

2)     Pangalawang rason. Masyadong assuming. Assuming in a way na akala mo naka move-on kana, hindi pa pala. Akala mo you're getting over it, you're getting over him or her, pero hindi pa pala. Just like a boulder deep in the mud, it “seems” like it's moving when you push it, but is actually not. Or maybe you are just too hopeful and optimistic that you begin to become illogical and unrealistic. You maybe hoping too much na babalik pa 'yung mga bagay-bagay sa dati, that things will go back to normal. Although it can be true, but not all the time. There is no guarantee plus, masasaktan ka lang sa kakahintay at kakaasa.

3)     Ikatlong rason is holding on to your grudges and bitterness. Sometimes, people say the lines na na-mention ko kanina like, “walang forever”, yung mga hugot lines nyo, at iba pa. It's very common to hear that from the mouth of the youth, and see sa kanilang mga Twitter at Facebooks. Minsan hindi pa nga exempted ang Instagram. It may be cliché, but some people are saying that with feelings and declaring it with dignity- like it's some sort of scientific law or mathematical principle already. Ang heart mo ay merong apat na chambers- and these chambers can be filled with a lot of things. Some people, dun nila tinatambak ang lahat ng kanilang sakit, kalungkutan, sama ng loob, galit, atbp. We can't deny that some people choose to close and harden their hearts in order to protect themselves.

4)     Ikaapat. Fear of something new. Leaving your “comfort zone” is neither pleasant nor exciting. We always don't want to leave things behind. The future is uncertain and mysterious- 'di talaga natin malalaman kung ano ang pwedeng mangyari. Maybe people are afraid na mangyayari ulit ang nangyari sa kanila noon, or maybe may posibleng pangyayari na hindi nila kakayanin ang consequence.

            Marami pang mga rason na iba dyan, but because of time constraints, hindi natin ma-enumerate lahat. But ang goal po dito sa araw na ito, ay malaman nyo ang sekreto sa pagmomove-on. Whatever your reason may be na nahihirapan kang maka-move-on, makakatulong ang sabi ni Apostle Paul sa Philippians 3:13-14 that says “13 Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.”

Paul is in fact saying,

1.      LEAVE YOUR PAST TO WHERE IT BELONGS

            Sa pag momoveon, like what is mentioned earlier, you have to leave something behind.

            That something may be something that has happened. What's done is done. It is unchangeable.

            We always look back at our past and see if we can do something to change it- which we can't, actually. No matter how hard we try, no matter how much we think of it late at night- it's simple. Nangyari na eh. Wala na talagang work-around 'dun.

            Stop trying to change your past, because you can't. Start changing your future. You cannot do anything about what has happened, but you can do something about what will happen.

            That something can also be something that is happening. Magkaiba sa happened ang happening. One's past tense. The other is in the present tense. Maybe there is something in your life na naghihinder sayo from moving on.

            Isa sa mga pinakasalarin 'dun ay ang kasalanan. Sin. Ang Hebrews 12:1 ay nagsasabing, “Therefore, since we are surrounded by such a great cloud of witnesses, let us throw off everything that hinders and the sin that so easily entangles. And let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us.”

            You may be in a forbidden relationship that God cannot bless. You might be engaged in stuff God cannot approve of.

            You may be doing stuff you know is wrong- such as destroying your body, which is the temple of the Holy Spirit, through drinking, smoking, doing drugs.

            You may be altering your body in ways that God hasn't designed you for- converting from male to female, or vice versa.

            You may be getting high scores in your exams, not by looking up to God for inspiration, but by looking at your seatmates for information.

            You may be murdering your brothers and sisters by simply planting a grudge against them.

            Ano ang feeling na disconnected 'yung internet nyo sa bahay? Nakaka-depress diba. What more yung feeling na disconnected ka kay Lord? Sin can do that! It does that! It will cut off your “lines” kay Lord.

            Let's revisit the verse in Hebrews 12:1 again. Paul is saying na bago tayo maka move-on, we must first deal with our sin. Why? Because sin easily entangles. In short, ibabaon ka ng sin sa kinatatayuan mo, such that hindi ka maka-move forward. Sad no? But for us, there is an answer sa issue ng sin- and that is Jesus Christ. All we have to do is approach Him and confess. In 1 John 1:9, sabi 'dun, “If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.” Tsaka even in Isaiah 43:25, God is saying “I will remember your sins no more.”

            It's quite amazing how God's love surpasses through your sin, that all you have to say is “Lord, forgive me,” and how He enables you to move on from darkness to light.

After leaving your past, it's not enough to stay stagnant. You must,

2.      LIVE YOUR LIFE IN THE PRESENT

            We will find it difficult to live our lives if palagi nating iniisip ang nakaraan. We will also find it difficult if all we think about is the future. Sometimes kailangan din nating tigilan ang kaka-daydream at buksan ang ating mga mata- life is going on around you right now!

            Sometimes masyado tayong pre-occupied with the future. Although it is good to think ahead- kailangan din ng balance. While it is good to have vision, sometimes masyadong malayo ang pananaw mo that you no longer know what to do. When that happens, try to think about today, about tomorrow. That might give you a different answer.

            Focus on the present kasi you can do something about it unlike sa past mo.

            Para makatulong sa pag-live ng buhay mo sa kasalukuyan, try to do these two simple habits every day: pray and read the Bible. You communicate with God sa pamamagitan ng panalangin, and God talks back sa pamamagitan ng kanyang Word.

            Start to live your life and live it right. The Bible clearly discerns kung ano ang tama at kung ano ang mali. How do you live right?

            Living right all boils down on these two commandments. Above all else, love the Lord your God. Second to this, love your neighbor as yourself.

Last but definitely not the least,

3.      LAUNCH TOWARDS WHAT IS BEYOND

            Launching means not moving downward but upward.

            Again kailangang i-clarify that we need to have balance on what is happening and what will happen. Too much of the future- 'di mo alam ang gagawin mo sa kasalukuyan. Too much of the present- wala kang vision. Your life would be an endless cycle na walang patutunguhan.

            The reason bakit takot ang tao sa future is because of the uncertainty- 'di natin ma-fully predict 'yung mga mangyayari. But God gives us His promise in Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.”

            The reason why we shouldn't be afraid of what tomorrow will bring, is because God is already there. We can just simply trust in Him with all our hearts, not on our own understanding according sa Proverbs 3:5-6. God loves you with an everlasting love, and He is willing to move the universe for your sake.

            While indeed you are living in the present, thinking of the purpose of your actions will help you with your decisions. Revisiting Philippians 3:14, the goal there is to win the prize for which God has called you heavenward in Christ Jesus.

            The reason kung bakit tayo pinapa-move-on is because, sa bandang huli, ay may naghihintay na gantimpala.

            In conclusion, allow me na magbasa sa Judges 2:1 “Now the angel of the LORD came up from Gilgal to Bochim and he said, "I brought you up out of Egypt and led you into the land which I have sworn to your fathers; and I said, 'I will never break My covenant with you.”